On Teaching and Learning

 In my experience as a learner for thirty-four years and a teacher and guide for fifteen, I have always subscribed to a contrarian approach to teaching and learning, no matter what I learn or teach.

For me, an ‘entertaining’ classroom or one-on-one session does not exist. If it does, you’re not actually learning anything new — just getting reinforced on what you already know or believe in. I believe a teacher does not make the learning process ‘a lot of fun’ but something truly worthy of slowing down, understanding, reflecting on, and exploring together. This sense of togetherness is important. In the Taittiriya Upanishad, the second mantra, Om Sahanaavavatu…, is all about this intellectual and spiritual cohesion between the teacher and the student.

This intensive process requires a hefty dose of hard work. So, when a student comes to me to learn a language, writing, Indian vocal music, or financial planning — the subjects I teach — I make certain things clear early on: what we are going to learn is difficult; it’s worth learning together because it’s difficult; it’s a bilateral process; reaching the goal is not certain, but the learning is. Unless you are willing to spend at least five to ten years with the subject, don’t even start.

I try to filter strongly. I even try to ‘scare off’ people initially — to wash away the froth of easy dopamine. Hard dopamine, like slow reading, failing better, and staying with the subject, is key to true learning. The “How’s the josh? High, sir!” philosophy might help you start — but like any dopamine stimulant, it fades fast and demands a higher dose to come back.

Why do I say reaching the goal is uncertain? Because in many areas, it is beyond our circle of competence. Following the right process puts the odds in your favour — but guarantees nothing.

And that’s not bleak. It’s a rational optimism. Doing the right thing matters — even when no one is watching, even when no reward is guaranteed. Because the process, not the prize, is what makes you grow.

10 May,2025